The Underappreciated Value of Work-Life Balance: Our Societal Obsession with Work

Work-Life Balance

In a relentless pursuit of success, America’s obsession with work has crafted a society tightly bound to the doctrines of the Protestant work ethic, individualism, and capitalism. Let’s unpack the historical and cultural dimensions of this obsession, evaluate its impact on mental health, and suggest pathways for fostering a healthier approach to honoring a work-life balance in America.

How the Heck Did We Get Here: A Uniquely American Problem

At the heart of America lies a pervasive culture that equates hard work with moral virtue and personal worth. Not monetary worth but your worth as a member of American society. This dogma, anchored in historical and philosophical grounds, doesn’t merely promote industriousness but insists upon it, often at the expense of personal well-being. We are taught from a very young age that feelings have no bearing on your obligation to work. We work long hours without breaks. We never take vacations. We go to work sick. We sacrifice our relationships and happiness for the idea of work. We have been told, and mostly continue to believe, that the only measure of success is wealth and status and to obtain it we must work ourselves sick until that success is obtained.  To forge a path to a healthier future, it is imperative to understand the depth of this issue and its intricate roots in history and culture.

The Protestant Work Ethic

Coined by Max Weber in his seminal work “The Protestant Ethic and the Spirit of Capitalism” (1905), the Protestant work ethic merged religious doctrine with work ethos, championing hard work, and individual responsibility as virtuous pursuits. Over time, this perspective has intertwined with American identity, fostering a society that often equates relaxation with laziness, and leisure with guilt.

As a result, generations find themselves trapped in a cycle of relentless work, unable to delineate their intrinsic value from their professional output. This mindset can cultivate a fertile ground for mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, with individuals constantly striving to meet unreachable standards, perpetually haunted by a sense of inadequacy.

Individualism: An American Hallmark 

The Myth that America is a Meritocracy

American individualism, deeply rooted in the country’s formative experiences and philosophical underpinnings, propounds the belief in the solitary, self-made individual triumphing against odds. Independence, self-reliance, and personal achievement are deeply ingrained values that we all share and are taught from a very early age. We have been told in school, church, and in almost every story we consume that if we work hard enough that success is just around the corner. Success in any measure is a reflection of our abilities but most of all our efforts.  This is what a Meritocracy promises and we have all been taught that our system is just that. Individualism champions personal freedom and self-reliance, but also inadvertently fosters isolation, with individuals shouldering burdens alone, even those exacerbated by systemic issues. We compare ourselves to others and compete for recognition and reward creating a cycle of self-imposed pressure to worker harder and longer than others to constantly prove oneself. 

Mental health bears the brunt of this, as individuals in distress often find themselves isolated, marooned in a sea of self-expectations and societal judgments. The shift towards a more communal approach, where societal structures are crafted to support and uplift individuals, can be a vital step in alleviating the mental health crisis exacerbated by extreme individualism.

Capitalism Driving the Work Obsession

The capitalist framework, a beacon of opportunity and growth, has also nurtured a society obsessed with relentless competition. Our values are innovation, entrepreneurship and above all productivity. This environment has inadvertently created workplaces characterized by high stress and burnout, sapping the joy and creativity from work, and often extending work hours to unsustainable levels, as delineated in Schor’s work (1991).

Capitalism’s unyielding demand for more fosters a culture of continuous engagement, leaving scant room for relaxation and recuperation. The fluid nature of the American labor market results in changing demands and conditions that if not met could result in the lose of employment and income. This creates a need to work more and better than others and to accumulate wealth and assets. This is unsustainable for any society.  For healthier mental spaces, it is pivotal to inject empathy and understanding into capitalism, fostering work environments that prioritize the well-being of employees, promoting healthy work-life balances, and encouraging regular breaks to rejuvenate.

Identity and Work: A Perilous Intersection

The American narrative frequently encourages individuals to intertwine their identities with their professions, a trend that Hochschild (1997) warns can lead to crises of self-worth during career downturns. The relentless chase for professional accolades can leave individuals feeling lost and devoid of purpose outside their work spheres.

To combat this, it is essential to foster cultures that celebrate individual worth beyond professional achievements, encouraging hobbies, community engagements, and personal developments that are disconnected from work. On a personal level, individuals can consciously work to build identities grounded in diverse aspects of life, rather than solely on professional achievements.

The Underappreciated Value of Leisure and Rest

In a society that often perceives rest as an indulgence rather than a necessity, rekindling a respect for leisure is paramount. Scholars like Csikszentmihalyi (2008) and Schulte (2014) have emphasized the profound positive impacts of leisure on mental health, highlighting the rejuvenative power of ‘flow’ and the creative potential unleashed through unstructured time.

As a society, we must strive to dismantle the notion that our worth is defined by our productivity, learning to value the rich experiences and personal growth that leisure affords. This involves cultivating personal hobbies, seeking therapy to untangle ingrained beliefs about work, and as a society, fostering policies that encourage a healthier work-life balance.

Until This Gets Better for All – Take Care of Yourself

The tendrils of the Protestant work ethic, individualism, and capitalism reach deep into the American psyche, fostering a work obsession that bears heavily on mental health. As we forge forward, there is an urgent need to untangle our worth from our work, fostering a society that values individual well-being over relentless productivity. Through conscious societal and individual efforts, there lies a hopeful path to a balanced life, where work and leisure coexist harmoniously, nurturing a healthier, happier populace.

To help facilitate change, be an advocate for work life separation. Promote boundaries. Don’t be afraid to advocate for yourself and your coworkers. Bring your concerns to your superiors and stand up for yourself and your rights as an individual. You are not your job and nobody should expect you to be. 

Self care is essential when our society does not value work life balance. If you feel overwhelmed by your work demands and cannot detach yourself from your job, you may need to seek help from a mental health professional. Here at Serengeti Wellness we are ready and capable of helping you draw clear lines between the areas of your life without sacrificing any art of yourself. You deserve to take care of yourself, your future self, and your loved ones. Embrace of a more joyful life. 



Weber, M. (1905). The Protestant Ethic and the Spirit of Capitalism. 

Ellwood, D. W. (1988). Poor Support: Poverty in the American Family. Basic Books.

Schor, J. B. (1991). The Overworked American: The Unexpected Decline of Leisure. Basic Books.

Hochschild, A. R. (1997). The Time Bind: When Work Becomes Home and Home Becomes Work. Metropolitan Books.

Csikszentmihalyi, M. (2008). Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience. Harper Perennial Modern Classics.

Schulte, B. (2014). Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has The Time. Sarah Crichton Books.


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